Description:
Educational Objectives:
*Sessions may be edited for content and to preserve confidentiality*
Outline:
Panel Introduction
Panel includes Harville Hendrix, Marion Solomon, and Stan Tatkin.
Moderator shares personal connection with panelists and sets a casual, engaging tone.
Emphasis on the importance of relationships for both clients and therapists.
Safety and Cultural Shifts
Marion Solomon discusses how the women's movement has changed relational dynamics.
Notes men often struggle more with communication and therapy.
Relationship issues often stem from communication deficits, not pathology.
Emphasis on shifting from individualism to connection and differentiation.
Therapists as Cultural Influencers
Therapists should influence cultural norms through writing, teaching, and clinical work.
Neutrality isn’t always helpful—therapists must share clear values and direction.
Therapy should model healthy relational values in a culture that often undermines them.
Relational Focus in Therapy
Stan Tatkin stresses the importance of connection, social support, and secure functioning.
Therapists must help couples develop secure attachments and reliable patterns.
Need to counter cultural messages that glorify independence over mutual care.
Building Secure Relationships
Tatkin encourages structured, clear direction and therapist self-regulation.
Solomon highlights setting and communicating therapeutic goals, even if challenging.
Use of “therapeutic astonishment” (surprise/disruption) to reveal patterns.
Couples need predictability and reliability to feel safe and thrive.
Empathy and Mind Reading
Mind reading (understanding others’ mental states) is essential in secure bonding.
Empathy is both a neurobiological and relational skill.
Therapists must track both verbal and non-verbal communication cues in session.
Fear, Threat, and Cultural Stress
Cultural fear can influence therapy if therapists aren’t mindful.
Tatkin introduces “unseen fear” and warns against amplifying anxiety unnecessarily.
Solomon links fear responses to evolutionary needs for connection and safety.
Therapists should help couples feel secure while addressing real issues.
Early and Preventative Interventions
Tatkin and others advocate for premarital and early relationship therapy.
Need for better models to teach relationship skills before problems escalate.
Idea: teach children and adolescents how to manage conversations and conflict.
Community and Connection
Solomon emphasizes that community is central to healing and well-being.
Therapists should help couples develop empathy, trust, and communication.
The panel calls on therapists to promote relational values in the wider culture.
Conclusion
Therapists are positioned to foster healthier relationships and cultural change.
Building secure, empathic, and connected relationships benefits couples and societ.
Harville Hendrix, PhD and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD are partners in life and work. Their lives and work are integrated in their commitment to the transformation of couples and families and to the evolution of a relational culture that supports universal equality. Harville is co-creator of Imago Relationship Therapy and co-founder of Imago Relationships International. Chancellor of the Imago International Institute and emeritus board member of IRI. Dr. Hendrix has received an honorary Doctor of Humane Letters from Mercer University, Macon, GA, the Distinguished Service Award from the American Association of Pastoral Counselors, and the Distinguished Contributors Award by the Association for Imago Relationship Therapy. His latest book, written with his wife, Helen Hunt, is Receiving Love.
Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT®). He has a clinical practice in Calabasas, CA, where he has specialized for the last 15 years in working with couples and individuals who wish to be in relationships. He and his wife, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, developed the PACT Institute for the purpose of training other psychotherapists to use this method in their clinical practice.
Senior extension faculty at UCLA, Dept of Humanities, Sciences and Social Sciences, Extension Division, and Professor at the American Behavioral Studies Institute in Beverly Hills. Co-Founder of the Lifespan Learning Institute, dedicated to the advanced training and application of research in individual, group and family therapy. Associate of the American Psychoanalytic Association, member of the California Psychoanalytic Society, Research Analyst of the American Academy of Psychoanalysis, fellow of the American Group Psychotherapy Association and member of the Division of Psychoanalysis, American Psychological Association. Author, co-author, editor or co-editor of seven books, she co-wrote a book with Stan Tatkin, Love and War in Intimate Relationships.
Learn more about Dr. Solomon at https://drmarionsolomon.com/