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Panel Introduction and Focus
2016 Erickson Foundation Couples Conference features a neuroscience panel with Stan Tatkin, Pat Love, and Helen Fisher.
Helen Fisher’s keynote emphasized clinical tools and personality-based insights.
Panel opens with focus on individual differences and personality patterns.
Personality and Perfume Study
Stan Tatkin shares story about matching his wife’s perfume to her estrogen type via Helen Fisher’s test.
Fisher explains her research linking perfume preferences to dominant brain systems—16 out of 18 matched.
Discussion touches on the anterior insula’s role in emotions and attachment.
Pat Love highlights how atypical hormone-dominant individuals are often misunderstood (e.g., estrogen-dominant men).
Relationship and Therapy Challenges
Cultural expectations make high-testosterone and high-estrogen couples feel pressure or shame.
Importance of adapting to a partner’s neurobiological profile in therapy.
Brain areas like the anterior cingulate and orbitofrontal cortex influence sexual function and intimacy.
Romantic Love, Sex, and Dopamine
Scheduling sex is recommended to maintain health and connection.
Dopamine plays a key role in female orgasm and sustaining romantic love.
Separating sex drive, romantic love, and attachment helps reduce anxiety in therapy.
Long-term eroticism can be rekindled through novelty, like vacations.
Neuroscience Insights on Love
Romantic love persists beyond reproductive years for bonding benefits.
Presence and attention are crucial for sustaining novelty and connection.
In-person interaction is vital—online connections lack full attachment cues.
Birth control pills may influence mate selection by altering hormonal responses.
Addiction and Desire in Relationships
Addiction and romantic craving share neurological mechanisms.
Understanding craving helps therapists work with desire issues in couples.
Novelty and scheduled intimacy can reignite romantic feelings and connection.
Outlook and Closing
Longer pre-commitment periods are improving marriage success rates.
Thorough partner understanding before marriage reduces divorce risk.
Fisher’s research is available to the public in her books.
Panel concludes by stressing the need to tailor therapy to individual differences and neurobiology.
Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT®). He has a clinical practice in Calabasas, CA, where he has specialized for the last 15 years in working with couples and individuals who wish to be in relationships. He and his wife, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, developed the PACT Institute for the purpose of training other psychotherapists to use this method in their clinical practice.
Pat Love, Ed.D, is known for her warmth, humor, and practical, research-based wisdom. Her blog posts, YouTube clips, books, trainings, workshops, and online courses have made her a popular go-to relationship consultant. Her work has been featured on TV, in cyberspace, and popular magazines, but she’s also a distinguished professor, licensed marriage and family therapist, and long-standing clinical member and approved supervisor in American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy.
Helen E. Fisher, PhD, is a biological anthropologist and a Research Professor in the Department of Anthropology at Rutgers University. She has written five books on the evolution and future of human sexuality, monogamy, adultery and divorce, gender differences in the brain, the chemistry of romantic love, and most recently, human personality types and why we fall in love with one person rather than another.