EP95 Conversation Hour 14 - Cloe Madanes, Lic Psychol

Description:

Educational Objectives:

1. To learn philosophies of various practitioners and theorists.

*Sessions may be edited for content and to preserve confidentiality*

Outline:

Workshop Introduction

• Focus on applying therapy to family abuse, reconciliation, and therapist self-awareness.

Case Discussion: Past Abuse and Family Fractures

• A complex family case: mother molested by family members, daughter later abused by brothers.

• Family fractured—one daughter (a police officer) remains in contact with abusers, causing tension.

• Suggested interventions: involve daughter’s therapist, write letters to family members explaining the importance of addressing abuse for future generations.

Letter Writing and Surrogate Apologies

• Recommend non-confrontational letters appealing to elders for healing and transparency.

• Surrogates can apologize on behalf of unavailable or uncooperative offenders (e.g., a priest for the church).

Personal Influence on Therapeutic Work

• Speaker shares background: Argentine upbringing, education, work with Bateson and Erickson.

• Discusses how family history and immigration influenced therapeutic style.

Therapist’s Role in Family Reconciliation

• Emphasize involving extended family in healing, even when the offender is absent.

• Invite family to structured meetings; support victims through family dialogue and inclusion.

Catharsis and Emotional Processing

• Catharsis should happen naturally, not be forced.

• Therapists should maintain composure and use session time as a reward for progress.

Therapy for Adolescents with Physical/Emotional Issues

• Case: 15-year-old with health issues, school problems, and abuse history.

• Recommendation: prioritize health, involve parents, and seek specialized schooling and medical help.

Therapists with Personal Abuse History

• Therapist’s own abuse can increase empathy and effectiveness.

• Advice: be supportive, recommend therapy when needed, and lead with compassion.

Treating Sexual Abuse in Men vs. Women

• Male survivors often carry more shame due to perceived homosexual implications.

• Importance of directly addressing those unique experiences in therapy.

Family Role Reversals and Independence

• "Happy indifference": transition from being cared for to caring for aging parents.

• Therapists help clients develop empathy for parents and accept role reversals.

Referrals and Resources

• Suggested therapists in Las Vegas: Jeff Zeig, Margaret Singh.

• Willingness to provide personal referrals if needed.

Adolescent with Behavioral Issues

• For a 17-year-old with a pattern of lying and stealing: look for underlying family conflict and involve parents in therapy.